Another year has come and gone. Happy 6th wedding anniversary, hubby! 🙂
Typically, I do a #skincaresunday post; however, because it is my anniversary wedding weekend, I decided to do something different. I am no relationship expert; however, here is my own view/advice of how to keep a lasting relationship.
Who would have thought I would marry the boy who I met as a newly minted 20 year old?
September 1, 2012 was and still is one of the happiest days of my life. It is so true when someone says the best memories cannot be captured and will live in your head forever. Jimmy and I had photographers and a videographer; although we love the photos and video, the essence of the day will always live in my head. The love we felt from our family and friends will never be forgotten.
Here are my tips for a lasting relationship:
- Many individuals say to find a person who shares common interests as you. Although we do share a few common interests, I find we are very much opposites of each other and we help to nurture each other’s interests. What do I mean by this?
a) Jimmy is an avid gym goer. He has helped me to develop an interest in using the weight machines at the gym. I used to always only go and do group classes at the gym or use the elliptical and/or treadmill.
b) I played tennis for a little bit while I was younger. Jimmy has always had an interest in tennis. Together, we have taken lessons together and have enjoyed playing together.
c) I used to do cross country in high school. Jimmy was convinced he could never do long distances as he is more of a 100 m kind of guy. Jimmy and I now have completed 2 Sporting Life 10K races now. 🙂
d) It is no secret Jimmy has coined the term “the Rowena Special” to describe the times when I come home earlier than Jimmy but have no meal prepared. Since winter of 2017, things have changed drastically. I have finally decided to get back into the kitchen and get comfortable. 🙂
d) For as long as we have been married, Jimmy has always hinted at the fact that he loves to bike. I learned how to bike as a child but never really rode regularly. As we moved from the townhouse to our current home, we bought bikes. Who would have thought I could ever bike to Evergreen Brickworks and the Distillery District?
Our photographer would be so proud! Part of our engagement shoot involved biking; because the road in Niagara on the Lake was fairly busy, our photographer ended up having to use my bike and I rode in the car. 😉
Jimmy was amazed at how I managed to dodge the dogs and people as we had biked through the rice fields of Bali.
I may not have been a strong bike rider; however, I always pulled through. During this summer, I have definitely gotten more comfortable.
2. Although we are two very different individuals, we were inseparable from the beginning. Jimmy and I were like two peas in a pod. We really enjoyed each other’s company. Find the person who you can’t get enough of! 😉
3. As much as we like to enjoy each other’s company, Jimmy and I both respect each other’s alone time. I make it a priority to hang out with my friends regularly and Jimmy has never had an issue with that. It’s very important to keep your identity and not have that lost.
4. When you say “I Do”, you really do anticipate spending the rest of your life with the other person. Does anyone really know what forever means though? Understand that marriage is work. It’s not always perfect but it takes both individuals to work at it. Jimmy and I had never lived together prior to marriage. Living together was a whole other learning curve but we got through it. Jimmy grew up in a predominantly male household (2 older brothers + father vs. mother) vs. me who grew up in a predominantly female household (1 younger sister + mother vs. father). We clearly had differences and I’m glad we worked them out. Know what buttons you can push and what buttons you cannot push. Know when you are wrong and be open to admitting you are wrong. Communication is such a vital part of any successful relationship.
5. As cliche as this sounds, we share the same core values. We both value family as we see both sets of parents a minimum of once a week. We are both open-minded individuals but also both value genuity and reliability. We both abide by the golden rule. “Treat others as you would like to be treated”.
We both are not perfect. I will continue to nag Jimmy for to increase his daily water intake. He thinks I’m crazy for drinking as much water as I do. I will also continue to nag Jimmy to wear sunglasses even on cloudy days as the UV rays are strong! Jimmy continue to nag me for being a messy person. I call it my organized chaos. 😉 Jimmy is aware of my inability of saying “no” to the point where I exhaust myself and leave myself with little to no me time ever. Jimmy reminds me consistently to be more choosy. The examples could go on but you get the jist. 😉 He is my Yin to my Yang. 🙂 This is our story. Here’s to many more years of memories. I can’t imagine life without Jimmy. That’s the truth.