Eating well often entails taking the discussion beyond food. Our mood can definitely influence our food and/or drink choices. Whether we are in a good mood or a bad mood, an individual could use food as a coping mechanism.
When life is going well, we often use food as rewards.
Do you ever recall these situations…
“You got an A+ on your test and/or assignment, let’s go out for an ice cream”
“You got a new job. Let’s go out a celebratory drink” –> Celebratory drinks often include munchies on the side as well.
“Happy 1 month/2 month/3 month/etc. birthday! It’s time for some yummy cake!”
All these mentioned above scenarios are just a few examples of how we use food and/or drink to celebrate when life is good. What happens when life does not go exactly as planned?
Do you ever recall these situations…
“I got let go from my job. What am I going to do now? I have bills to pay!!!”
“My long term partner and I have decided to separate. I don’t know how I feel about this. We’ve been together for so long. It’s going to be hard to rebuild my life again.”
“A family member has just been diagnosed with Stage IV cancer. I don’t know how this happened. I don’t know what to do.”
“It’d be nice to start a family. We’ve been trying for an extended period of time. Nothing has happened.”
“I got overlooked for a job promotion. I’ve been with the company for a good chunk of time now. I’m feeling very discouraged.”
The above mentioned scenarios are only a few examples of how life isn’t always happy. Life can take unexpected turns and present obstacles. Often times, individuals, when faced with these types of situations, can use food as a coping mechanism.
Using food as a coping mechanism is not a solution. I have counselled emotional eaters; clients are often surprised when our appointments change from discussing about how to choose better food options to how to overcome obstacles in life by learning how to be resilient.
Resilience is your ability to “bounce back”; it is your ability to overcome obstacles and/or hardships. I believe each and every human being has had to deal with hardship at least once in his/her lifetime. How you “bounce back” is up to you. The key to being resilient and/or having the ability to bounce back quickly is all in your mindset. Having a positive mindset can make a huge difference!!!
Steps to Achieving Resilience:
Is your mind full or are you mindful? Are YOU fully present at this moment or is your mind somewhere else?
There is something that each and every one of us can be grateful for everyday. What are some acts of kindness and/or generosity you have been a recipient of? Start noticing the good in your life. 😉
How is your general outlook on situations? Are you an individual who sees the glass half empty or glass half full? An optimistic individual always sees the glass as being half full. Optimism/ Pessimism is how we explain to ourselves why certain things (i.e. good things or bad things) happen to us. For an individual to become resilient, optimism is a must. 😉 You must learn to always see the glass as half full. 🙂
4. Self Compassion
Love yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. There is no need to be highly self-critical and/or impatient with our own flaws. No one is perfect. On your journey to becoming resilient, only speak of kind, supportive and encouraging words.
How much are you willing to persevere for your long term goal? How much focus do you have to achieve your ultimate goal? Do you recall situations where you have said to yourself “I don’t care how I do it but I’m going to find a way to achieve x”. This is grit. No matter how to difficult and/or impossible it seems, you always find a way to deal and/or overcome the obstacle.
Food For Thought: Are you resilient? In order to become resilient, are there any steps (i.e. mindfulness, gratitude, optimism, self love & grit) you need to work on? To be honest, all the steps to become resilient is always a work in process. One must practice gratitude, optimism, self-love, mindfulness and develop grit on a daily basis.